The Quiet Power of Leading Yourself Well

By: Jennifer Franko, Coach, Renogize Professional Coaching

It seems safe to say now and then all of us struggle with leading ourselves well. I’ll speak for myself: Even on my best day, if I’m not intentional about keeping self-awareness high, I’ll trip up and stumble into, “Ugh. I wish I hadn’t said/done that.” 

As a coach, leadership strategist, and woman of faith, I believe one of the greatest responsibilities we carry—whether in the boardroom, the sanctuary, the workplace, or our own families—is to steward ourselves well. And self-management / self-leadership is where emotional intelligence becomes real.  

Harnessing the ability to lead yourself well is the oh so critical practice of aligning our internal world of our thoughts, emotions, and impulses with the external impact we absolutely have on others. When we’re emotionally overwhelmed or frustrated, we can either be led by our ego and emotions, or we can bring them under the authority of love, truth, and purpose.  

Please hear this: Leading yourself well is not about suppression or perfection. Rather, it is noticing without judging, pausing before reacting, gut-checking your intentions, breathing before speaking, and anchoring to purpose before responding.  

We have opportunity from small to big moments to choose grace over reaction and integrity over ego. Leaders who do this become trustworthy and someone who others want to follow. When we practice leading ourselves well, we show up with clarity, courage (and encouragement), and calm in the face of chaos. That’s what those who are under our leadership or influence want and need. Likewise, we teach others how to do this simply by living the example for all to see. 

As one who deeply desires to practice self-leadership well, I’ve had to begin asking myself every day: “What will it take for me to put full effort into leading myself well for the sake of those I lead and influence?” 

How would you answer that question?  

This is personal work only you can choose to do. 

It’s not easy work, but it’s worth it. Let’s be in this together, shall we?